Dating Therapy & Coaching
Support for those ready to choose a different relationship story

Why the Pattern Keeps Repeating

Dating apps and dating sites can make it feel like the answer is simply choosing better or trying harder. Dating patterns don’t repeat because you’re doing something wrong.
They repeat because your nervous system learned a very specific way of relating — long before dating apps, first dates, or conscious choice entered the picture.

Attraction isn’t random.
Chemistry isn’t neutral.
What feels familiar often feels safe — even when it hurts.

This work isn’t about blaming the past or dissecting every relationship. It’s about understanding how your body learned closeness, protection, and attachment — and how those patterns quietly guide who you’re drawn to and how you stay.

This is where the real shift happens.

Your sessions are 120 minutes so there is room to settle, to feel, and to explore without pressure

Together, we:
• understand your relational patterns with compassion, not blame
• make sense of the strategies you had to build to feel safe
• gently unwind the stories that keep you disconnected
• build emotional clarity and internal grounding
• practice new relational experiences in real time

Sessions becomes a rehearsal space — where the younger parts of you finally see the patterns that once felt impossible to name, and this time, you're not facing them alone

What Therapy Looks Like With Me

A Grounded, Soft-Direct Therapeutic Approach

You’re not looking for surface-level guidance
You’re looking for depth for safety
for someone who can meet your story without judgment

I work with a grounded, attuned presence — soft but direct, warm without coddling, rebellious in the ways that free you.

My lens blends:
• attachment theory
• trauma-informed care
• nervous-system science
• relational therapy

This is the kind of work that quietly changes everything

Why Work With Me

Men are often told to “open up” or “be more emotionally available.”
What’s rarely offered is the support to actually do that — the tools, the safety, and the space to explore emotions without judgment.

Research consistently shows that many men experience higher levels of emotional suppression, social isolation, and shame around vulnerability, even though the desire for connection runs just as deep.

When emotional expectations increase without emotional support, men can feel caught between who they want to be in relationships and the strategies they learned early on to survive. Strategies that once protected them can begin to create distance instead.

Many men come to this work having been labeled emotionally unavailable, distant, or afraid of commitment. But what’s often underneath isn’t a lack of desire for closeness — it’s a lack of tools.

Intimacy may feel unfamiliar, overwhelming, or unsafe, even when it’s wanted.

This work offers a different path. One that helps you understand what happens internally as intimacy grows, how to stay present without shutting down, and how to choose connection without feeling trapped or losing yourself.

This is not about fixing you.
It’s about understanding what your nervous system learned — and choosing differently, with support.

For Men Labeled :
“Distant”, "Harsh", or “Afraid of Commitment”

Who I Work With

Those Who Learned to Put Themselves Second

Many people who come to this work have spent years carrying responsibility for others. This includes military members and military families, first-generation individuals, and driven, high-functioning people who learned early how to be reliable, capable, and strong.

Often, relationships were something you postponed. You supported. You showed up. You held things together. And somewhere along the way, your own desire for connection became secondary — or invisible.

This work creates space to explore what it’s like to choose a relationship without abandoning yourself, and to build intimacy that doesn’t require you to keep holding everything alone.

This space is for Millennial and Gen Z women and men who are emotionally reflective, growth-oriented, and ready to look honestly at their relationship patterns — without shame or self-blame.

It’s for people who want commitment, but not at the cost of themselves. For those who are tired of repeating the same emotional cycle and are ready to build connection from steadiness rather than urgency.

You don’t need to become someone new.
You get to choose a different story.

How This All Comes Together

Whether you’ve been the caretaker, the achiever, the one who keeps distance, or the one who keeps trying — the patterns make sense when we look underneath them.

Dating doesn’t have to be another place where old roles replay themselves.

This is where clarity replaces confusion.
Where safety replaces urgency.
And where connection becomes something you can actually stay present for.

Taking the Next Step

If you’re ready to date with more clarity, emotional steadiness, and self-trust — or if you simply want a deeper understanding of your relationship patterns — I invite you to schedule a consultation.

We’ll talk about what’s been showing up, what you’re hoping for, and whether this work feels like the right fit.

You don’t have to keep doing this alone.